Take Stalking Warning Signs Seriously

Stalking warning signs include someone following you, or laying in wait

Stalking is a pattern of behavior, directed at a specific individual, that causes fear or severe emotional distress. This pattern of intimidation and control can involve any of a wide range of behaviors, which serve as stalking warning signs.

Stalking Warning Signs

Behaviors that serve as stalking warning signs include, but are not limited to:

  • Continuing to send unwanted communications, or leave gifts for someone after being asked not to
  • Following someone in person, or tracking them using technology
  • Hiring or recruiting someone to track or monitor the targeted individual
  • Identity theft, impersonation
  • Using mutual acquaintances as a source of information or research
  • Invading someone’s privacy or stealing their personal belongings
  • Reading someone’s emails, texts, or other communications without their knowledge or consent
  • Showing up or waiting at someone’s home, workplace, or classes
  • Spreading rumors intended to ruin someone’s reputation or call their character into question
  • Threatening to hurt oneself in order to control another’s behavior
  • Threatening the target, their loved ones, or their pets
  • Trespassing on or damaging someone’s property
  • Watching, monitoring, or spying on someone in person or through the use of technology

Some of the behaviors listed above are crimes on their own. Others are only criminal in conjunction with other behaviors. Because of this, it’s vital for victims to maintain a Stalking Incident and Behavior Log that documents every known incident, and keeps all evidence of communication.

Victims of Stalking experience fear and emotional distress
Victims of Stalking experience fear and emotional distress

“There’s a lesson in real-life stalking cases that [people] can benefit from learning: persistence only proves persistence—it does not prove love. The fact that a romantic pursuer is relentless doesn’t mean you are special—it means [they’re] troubled.”

Gavin de Becker
The Gift of Fear and Other Survival Signals that Protect Us From Violence

Types of Stalkers

Stalkers may be acquaintances, current or former intimate partners, or someone unknown to the target of the unwanted attention. Stalkers have been classified into types based on their relationship to the victim.

It is important to consider the relationship, because victims of stalking by a current or former intimate partner have a higher risk of being seriously assaulted or killed than other domestic violence victims.


Stalkers can also be classified based on the rationale for stalking or the stalkers intentions.

Although some typologies present more, there is a general consensus that there are, minimally, five distinct types of stalkers.

  • The Incompetent Suitor would like a date, relationship, or to be sexual intimate with thier target. They stalk because they are unaware of or indifferent to the victim’s distress, possibly as the result of an inability to understand and interpret social signals.
  • An Intimacy Seeker is lonely and desires a relationship. This type of stalker may have delusional beliefs about the person they are targeting.
  • Predatory Stalkers derive sexual gratification from the sense of power and control they feel while they are pursuing, harassing, and intimidating victims.  
  • A Rejected Stalker is unable, or unwilling, to accept the end of a relationship. They either hope to resolve the conflict to “fix” the relationship, or they are seeking payback for the pain they feel has been wrongfully inflicted by their target.
  • The Resentful Stalker believes they have been mistreated, possibly humiliated, by the victim. They seek revenge, want payback. They may feel their actions are just, warranted.

Stalking Warning Signs May Be More Subtle When Technology Is Involved

Depending on the medium through which unwanted communication is received, a victim may not know the identity of a stalker. Stalking behaviors that utilize technology and do not involve direct communication can go unnoticed and undetected for long periods of time.

Technologically assisted stalking may have more subtle warning signs
Technologically assisted stalking may have more subtle warning signs

Stalking Statistics

According to “Stalking Facts Infographic” at the Stalking Prevention and Awareness Center (SPARC)

  • The overwhelming majority of those who experience stalking are stalked by someone they know
  • More than 50% of stalking incidents involve current or former intimate partners
  • 1 in 7 victims relocate their residence as a result of the victimization
  • Most stalkers pursue their victims once a week or more

Again, concerns around this issue should be taken seriously, stalking warning signs should not be ignored.

Staking Precautions and Safety Measures

There are precautions and safety measures that can be implemented if you, or someone you know, fears they are the target of this type of behavior:

It’s tempting to dismiss those things that we find odd, suspicious, or uncomfortable. We tend to rationalize or justify the behavior of others.

“Believing that others will react as we would is the single most dangerous myth of intervention.”

Gavin de Becker
The Gift of Fear and Other Survival Signals that Protect Us From Violence

Err on the Side of Caution When You Notice Stalking Warning Signs

With cases of potential stalking, when in doubt, err on the side of caution. Reach out for help immediately, seek the expertise of those with more experience. Safety is the first and top priority!

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Hi! I write books and blogs about wellness and adopting healthy living habits. My first children's picture book, Gabby Makes a Friend, is available at Amazon. I’ve been teaching sociology courses at community colleges since. Beyond work, I'm the proud mother of two beautiful, adult children. I’m a recovering perfectionist, whose hobbies include meditation, cooking, hiking, and yoga.

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