Humans have become more and more separated from other animals, physically and cognitively. Studies of animal behavior remind us just how similar humans and other species can be...
Being sexually assaulted can have a long-term, lasting physical and emotional impact. The degree to which someone feels comfortable sharing what happened to them with their loved ones [and supported when they do] can affect healing and recovery in a myriad of ways. One of the best ways to support survivors is to become aware of common physical and emotional responses to traumatic events and where to find advocacy and other resources.
What we've learned, from the research that's been conducted, is that perpetrators who've had an intimate relationship with the targeted person pose the greatest risk. Regardless of the context and circumstances, stalking should be taken seriously and seen as a warning sign of increased trouble and potential of harm ahead.
Knowing what we are feeling, sooner rather than later, also reduces the likelihood of responding in ways we later regret. We are able to remain calm, to pause and reflect on our choices, rather than having emotional outbursts. Understanding what stage, or wave, of an emotion we are experiencing is also valuable. If we are just beginning to feel an emotion, a few deep breaths may allow us to sit with it, without feeling overwhelmed. If we are in the later stages, and the waves of emotion are crashing in. We may need to take a walk, run, or cry.
When I was a child, reading was an escape for me. In adulthood, I found a more literal escape in traveling. A few years ago, my job was really getting me down and affecting my self-esteem. I had some money saved so I decided to hand in my notice and take a trip with my family. We wanted to go somewhere that would be completely different from our everyday lives; we chose Japan. It was there I found the inspiration for my travel mystery series.
We have more willpower available to us when we are motivated and determined. We are more committed when what we're striving for is tied to our ideal identity, who we would like our future self to be. It's important to ask whether our goals are actually ours. At times, we get caught up in what we feel we "should" want, or what others want for us.
Deciding how to end this very unusual year, on my website, wasn't easy. In hopes of starting an annual tradition, I created a "Year in Review" article. Looking back, I've tried many new things this year: fabulous, good, bad, and ugly... This post highlights the best of the best, those that were the most useful, user friendly, tasty, or enjoyable. Enough so that they earned a spot among my all-time favorites. Some were stumbled upon, others gifted, and a few were purchased, based on recommendations or reviews.