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Victims of Abuse Stay for Five Key Reasons

Victims of Abuse Stay for Five Key Reasons

When domestic violence, dating violence, or intimate partner abuse is brought up, it's not uncommon to hear someone say, "I don't understand... Why not just leave?" There are hundreds of reasons victims of abuse don't, won't, or can't leave. Here are five of the biggest.

Viewing the World through a Sociological Lens

Viewing the World through a Sociological Lens

We're all, to some degree, students of the social world. We've spent a lifetime, consciously and nonconsciously, attempting to uncover meaningful patterns, and extract insights, from our interactions with others. We watch one another, puzzled at times by the behavior we observe. We continuously search for explanations that might reveal other people's underlying motives. To some degree we're hoping that our interpretations might allow us to predict what will happen during future exchanges. In other words, we've all used a sociological lens, from time to time.

Common Writing Challenges Facing Authors and Bloggers

Common Writing Challenges Facing Authors and Bloggers

While doing an interview for Jon McBrine, I was asked about common writing challenges that aspiring writers might face. In my response I discussed the plethora of distractions, which was the first thought that came to mind. When I saw his question, I immediately realized that there are too many "traps for aspiring writers" to [...]

Forms of Relationship Abuse You Should Know About

Forms of Relationship Abuse You Should Know About

The main forms of relationship abuse are emotional, financial, physical, and sexual. Abuse involves tactics of manipulation, coercion, intimidation, or harassment, used to gain and maintain power and control over another. Incidents and instances of relationship abuse can occur between current or former dating and domestic partners, family members, caretakers, or even roommates. The behaviors listed in each category, below, were written specifically about relationships that are, or were, intimate and/or romantic in nature.

How to Stop Sneezes and Sniffles in Their Tracks!

How to Stop Sneezes and Sniffles in Their Tracks!

When I have the slightest tingle in my throat, at the first sign of the sniffles, when I wake up with a slight headache, or pressure around my eyes, I go into defense mode. Sometimes, I start acting before the first red flag, because it's "that time of year", or I noticed the ragweed count on the rise. Below are the practices and products I've come to count on, to get me back on track when I'm starting a downhill slide.

Ways to Support Survivors of Trauma

Ways to Support Survivors of Trauma

As an advocate and educator, I am frequently asked about the best ways to support survivors of trauma immediately after an incident, and long term. One of the best starting points in becoming part of a strong support system, is understanding how thoroughly experiencing a traumatic event can impact someone's life. Potentially every aspect of wellness may be impacted by the traumatic experience. Those who has been traumatized are frequently shaken to the core.

Writing My First Children’s Picture Book

Writing My First Children’s Picture Book

It's my hope that those who read the story of Gabby's developing relationship with her new friend will cherish it for many years! Gabby and Katie inspire, as they make connections, solve problems, and learn life lessons. They're lovable and unique, inviting readers to see beauty within themselves, and reminding them to be true to who they are.

The Power of Our Minds, Inspirational Quotes

The Power of Our Minds, Inspirational Quotes

Quotes are a source of motivation, inspiration, relaxation, contemplation, and also courage. They can be held in one's memory, or placed somewhere they'll be seen regularly. Sometimes people put quotes on their bathroom mirror or fridge, others frame them and give them a home on work desks or walls. A good quote can help someone through emotional turbulence or support them as they push toward their physical limits. Perhaps, most importantly, quotes express complex messages, universal truths, and deep emotions, clearly and simply, in ways that resonate and move us.

How to Start Training to Heart Rate

How to Start Training to Heart Rate

I wish I'd realized, at the time, that the fatigue which kept me from checking my watch was actually the consequence of not training effectively. This turned out to be equally true of my tunnel vision. As soon as I started training to heart rate, I felt more comfortable. I was listening to my body and working within my limits. I could look at my watch or around the neighborhood, even chat with other runners! For the first time, I was actually able to enjoy myself and experience flow when I was running.

Consent is about Communicating and Respecting Boundaries

Consent is about Communicating and Respecting Boundaries

Taking a more proactive approach to consent requires creating relationships where open and honest communication can take place. It involves listening intently, with all of our senses, to the words, body language, tone of voice, and movements of others, as they respond to our words, actions, and movement. It requires respecting the boundaries of others, and gracefully accepting rejection, without questioning or demanding explanations.

Six Relationship Red Flags

Six Relationship Red Flags

In abusive relationships, one partner seeks to gain, and maintain, power and control over the other. This is accomplished through the use of various manipulative tactics.