When domestic violence, dating violence, or intimate partner abuse is brought up, it's not uncommon to hear someone say, "I don't understand... Why not just leave?" There are hundreds of reasons victims of abuse don't, won't, or can't leave. Here are five of the biggest.
The main forms of relationship abuse are emotional, financial, physical, and sexual. Abuse involves tactics of manipulation, coercion, intimidation, or harassment, used to gain and maintain power and control over another. Incidents and instances of relationship abuse can occur between current or former dating and domestic partners, family members, caretakers, or even roommates. The behaviors listed in each category, below, were written specifically about relationships that are, or were, intimate and/or romantic in nature.
As an advocate and educator, I am frequently asked about the best ways to support survivors of trauma immediately after an incident, and long term. One of the best starting points in becoming part of a strong support system, is understanding how thoroughly experiencing a traumatic event can impact someone's life. Potentially every aspect of wellness may be impacted by the traumatic experience. Those who has been traumatized are frequently shaken to the core.